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Tiffany O'Reilly with the winner of the Tranquility Based Life Coaching basket

While I agree that we live in a multi-tasking, fast-paced world, I disagree with the idea that the world has changed.  The world remains the same; we have changed.  We have turned our world into “social media” and are consumed with our cell phones, texting, and emailing. 

Not only do I consciously listen, I consciously watch people.  What I see is people barely completing one call before going on to the next as well as fingers moving frantically across micro/macro keyboards in order to send messages along as quickly as possible. Even when speaking directly, often the listener is not fully engaged but waiting to get their point across or appearing to be distracted by some “mind chatter” from within.  Where is the processing time; the time to reflect on what is being said and to understand the true meaning that often is hidden behind the words?

HAVE YOU HEARD THE SOUND OF SILENCE LATELY?

I teach my clients to meditate, which is just another way of saying become quiet.  In that quiet one can hear the exquisite sound of silence–a sound that soothes the mind and comforts the soul.

Conscious listening not only helps us communicate and relate better with our business clients, our family and friends, but more importantly, it opens a gateway that allows our Higher Power to reveal inner understanding and wisdom to us.   

TAKE A FEW MINUTES…

7 minutes 50 seconds to be exact, to watch this great video my friend Dean Mercado of Online Marketing Muscle shared with me and learn how to be a conscious listener.

“Great post Jean!  Working and interacting with small business owners everyday, it’s amazing how much their scarcity mindset holds them back… especially in times with the economy in flux.”

“I agree that the beginning of one’s success starts with the belief that they can (and deserve) to have it!  One of the reasons I firmly believe that everyone should have a coach to keep them functioning in a space of abundance.”

Here Is My Response:

It is true that what we learn as children about money, worthiness, and success has a profound effect on our life.  Childhood beliefs remain stored in our subconscious mind or as Wayne Dyer calls it our “habitual mind.”   Although we become adults, our “habitual mind” continues to retrieve those beliefs and mindsets, much like the operating system that runs our computer, and they influence how we feel and act.

The business owner who comes from a “scarcity” mindset believing that it is difficult to succeed in this economy is replaying the programming of failure.  He or she expects to meet up with resistance, at best, but more likely a “no” on his or her next sales call.

We are energy beings capable of sensing how others feel.  Why would you expect a prospective client to believe that you are the right person to do business with, if you don’t consciously create and project that image?

We Achieve What We Believe!

 Will Rogers 

 “Ancient Rome declined because it had a Senate; now what’s going to happen to us with both a Senate and a House?”

 “Be thankful we’re not getting all the government we’re paying for.”

 “On account of being a democracy and run by the people, we are the only nation in the world that has to keep a government for four years, no matter what it does.”

“There’s no trick to being a humorist when you have the whole government working for you.”

“Everything is changing.  People are taking their comedians seriously and the politicians as a joke.”

                             Mark Twain

“Reader, suppose you were an idiot, and suppose you were a member of Congress.  But I repeat myself.”

 “Sometimes I wonder whether the world is being run by smart people who are putting us on, or by imbeciles who really mean it.”

A closing thought from Mark Twain:

“The human race has only one really effective weapon and that is laughter.”

Lighten up – find something to laugh about today!

So many of us wait for things to be “just right” before moving forward.  The secret is to just begin and then all co-operative components will be brought to you through the Law of Attraction.

Make “do it now” today’s goal.

Albert Einstein once said,

“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”  Yet we go on thinking, believing, and allowing the negative mind chatter to influence us and guide our actions.  Then we wonder why we are not getting the happiness we want in our life.  The answer is simple: we are standing in our own way.

Get Out Of The Way!!

If you want to see your life change, challenge your mindsets.  After all, a belief is just a thought you’ve been thinking long enough to believe it’s true.  Allow a kernel of a new idea to come in, and watch things change.  Play the  “wouldn’t it be nice if game” and create whatever you want the “if” to be.  Spend time each day thinking, and dreaming about things that make you feel happy and soon those things will begin manifesting into your life.

Nunley’s Carousel…

This week I went to Garden City and visited the Nunley’s Carousel.  The familiar sound of carousel music brought back memories of happy, carefree childhood days.  As I climbed on to one of the beautifully restored horses, worries and concerns slipped away.  For $2.00 I was transformed into the “NOW” feelings of joy and happiness. 

Enjoy the Idea of Flight and Adventure?

Just walk next door to The Cradle of Aviation Museum.  The Imax theatre will take you to distant galaxies or great underwater adventures.  There’s a Children’s museum, a Firefighters’ museum and so much more.

Want To Simplify Even More?

Go down to one of the local duck ponds, Stony Brook is my favorite.  Listen to the sounds of children giggling, as hungry ducks and geese surround them eager to steal the bags of food from their hands.  Take a kite to the schoolyard or go for a walk.  The daffodils, crocus, and Robins are waiting to proclaim that the cold, snowy days of winter are over and spring is here.  You can waste your day worrying about tomorrow and what MIGHT be, or you can choose to reduce stress and feel better by being in the “Now” and remembering—It’s time to play! 

Still Putting Off Your Joy Until You Get There? 

While most of us have outgrown that stage of life, too many of us are still “destination” focused not realizing that they are missing the fun and joy of life’s journey.

Cease The Moment!

I was 52 years old when my husband of 31 years was killed in a plane crash.  He was my childhood sweetheart and my best friend.  Unfortunately, fate did not mean for us to reach the destination together, but as I reflect back, the thing I am most grateful for is that we enjoyed every moment of the journey.

We did not wait or put off doing things that brought us joy.  Instead we lived in the “now” and found ways to do what made us happy.  When our children were young and money was limited, a day at the beach, an afternoon flying a kite in the school yard, or a picnic and badminton game in our backyard brought laughter and fun.  True it wasn’t a vacation at Disney World; those things came later.  But laughter is laughter, and the happy memories that come with it are the same whether it’s created doing simple, inexpensive fun things together or a grand vacation far from home. 

As a Life Coach I speak with clients all the time about what they want in their lives, what makes them happy, and what dreams they would like to see come true.  Too often they don’t know, or if they do, they believe they have to wait; wait for more money; wait for more free time; wait for the kids to get out of school; wait for when they will retire.

We Create Our Tomorrows By The Way We Live Today 

Life doesn’t come at us it comes from us. The Law of Attraction is continually making a match to the energy we send into the universe and then returns more of the same to us.

Stop Waiting…

Go out and find the pleasure in your “now.”  The key is to be willing to give as well as receive.  Try brightening someone else’s day and watch your day become brighter.  Make someone laugh and enjoy being surrounded by the sound of your own laughter.  Go to the playground with the intension of feeling like a kid again.  Slide down the slide, soar high into the air on a swing, or take a bottle of bubbles to a park and don’t be surprised if within a few moments people begin gathering around wanting to be part of your playful energy.  Nurture your inner child, and your life will take on new meaning.

There are times when we are faced with great challenges, but even in our darkest hour there is a light that shines within each of us.  It grows in brightness as our higher power, call it God, Spirit or by whatever name you choose, guides us to the knowledge that we came here to experience the joy of the journey not simply to arrive at the destination. 

Take Pleasure In Every Moment Of Your Trip.  

Now that we have reached the end of our 24-day journey together I’d like to take this opportunity to thank everyone for reading my ”What’s Your Life’s Dream and How Do You Make It Come True?” blog and a special thank you to those who have commented.  I hope that you have found it both interesting and informative. 

Be The Change You Want To See

While the information I have given you will move you toward making your dreams come true, nothing will happen unless you take the first step.  If you want to see changes, be the change you want to see.  Forget about making News Years Resolutions that will fade before February, and make a commitment to yourself to use the tips I have offered as my gift to you. 

Take a Moment To Reach The Inner Stillness

On this wonderful Christmas Eve take a few minutes to become quiet and reach the inner stillness within you where you will find peace and joy.  Be grateful for all you have and communicate not only in gifts but also in words and actions to those who you are blessed to have with you this year.

May you enjoy every moment of the holiday season, and may the New Year bring you dreams come true.

 Happy Holidays Everyone!

Life Coach Jean